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The Problem with Better Halves

Nobody is perfect. You are imperfect and you always will be in some aspect or the other; we should celebrate that. You are uniquely you and it is your USP.

There are no better halves. People are not half, they are whole people with their imperfections even. Accept them for who they are before you make them your life partners. Also, don’t look for all your needs in one person. There is a physical limit to which one person can fulfil and enrich someone else’s life.

We are all looking for intellectual, emotional, romantic, sexual, experiential and spiritual stimulation and connection. Understand each other and their love languages. And love (unconditionally – that is for another day); the more you give, the more you receive. If you aren’t receiving enough; then you might not be with the right person…

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Posted on by Niju Jaya Mohan

Grieving your breakup

You must grieve your breakups, space it out before you try to jump back in for the heck of it. Depending upon how important and valuable the relationship was; the period of mourning varies.

Everyone has to go through some or all of these stages of grief: denial, guilt, bargain, depression, coming back up, working through, acceptance.

Find what works for you; have some good crying sessions, listen to sad music, talk to your close friends, talk to your therapist, do some journaling – whatever helps you to grieve your loss. It is a loss, mind it! It will start to hurt a little less tomorrow and the day after and the day after. Some day you will work through it and forget about the pain.

Give yourself time. Grieve your loss. Also, pursue new potential interests when you have done self-work and healed. Otherwise, it’s not fair to the new person.

Now, back at it you crazy lover! I am rooting for you…

 

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